Address toxic masculinity within yourself

Acknowledge where you are and where you need to grow.

Instead of focusing on regrets for past behaviour, let the current moment be your new starting point for being more honest with yourself and others. See if you can identify the triggers that make you feel insecure about your masculine identity and find healthy ways to respond to them rather than defaulting to displays of toxic masculinity.

Start opening up.

Start by having conversations with people you trust, who will be there for you no matter what. Knowing that even one or two people accept you as your authentic self can give you the confidence to begin speaking your truth to others.

Look within

The influence of toxic masculinity and male gender norms in our society is significant. Sometimes men have spent so much of their life hiding their true selves that they aren’t sure who they are without these manufactured attitudes and behaviours. It may take some time and thought to get back in touch with your real feelings, values, and life goals.

Push past your resistance to asking for help.

For many, asking for assistance, whether from loved ones or a mental health professional, is the hardest thing. Understanding that men have been conditioned this way can help reduce the stigma. So can self-compassion. Imagine what you would say to a friend struggling with depression and who was afraid to talk about it. Surely you would encourage this friend to reach out and access the support they needed rather than suffering alone. Give yourself the same encouragement.

direct quote from https://www.newportinstitute.com/resources/mental-health/healthy-masculinity/